never turn a deaf ear to them; but her example is far more efficacious. I am sometimes asked by the wife, "How shall I make my husband more religious?" But there is only one answer. Be truly religious yourself; let him see that your religion is making you sweet-tempered under the vexations of life and faithful under its trials, and if you have any influence over him, that is the surest way to exert it. If he is capable of being saved, you will by this means accomplish it. We believe that few women who pursue a course of this kind will fail, and all other methods of management and directing may be laid aside. The very name of management, on the part of a wife towards her husband, excites derision or disgust, and the least indication of it completely destroys her influence.

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Finally, we speak of the DAUghter. influence is that of gentleness, obedience, and love. Before she is ten years old, her presence in the family, if she is well-mannered and welltaught, is like a gleam of sunshine. As she trips with a light step from room to room, a

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smile on each face follows her. up in innocence and truth. She divides her mother's cares, although herself free from care. She is busied with household duties and makes them a pleasant recreation by the cheerfulness and good taste with which they are performed. She makes industrious use of her advantages, and thus repays those who provide them for her. She is wise enough to defer her own wishes to those of her parents, and to return their affection by that artless obedience which seems to be the natural expression of love. Such is the daughter as she ought to be. It is impossible to tell the pride which her parents feel in her. Her father's eye rests upon her with a quiet satisfaction that no worldly success can impart. She is the very joy of his heart, the sweetest pleasure of his life. He may love his sons equally well, but there is a shade of tenderness towards his daughter, by which she seems nearer to him.

Such is the daughter as she ought to be, and such the relation which should exist between her and her parents. Her influence

then is very marked in the family circle. Her presence modifies the tone of conversation; her hands give the finishing touch to every thing in the household, so that an indefinable grace and tastefulness pervade all. Her absence is felt by all as an evil, and no one is aware how useful she has always been, and how much of their social happiness depended upon her, until they learn it by this means.

But if I were to speak with equal truthfulness of the daughter as she sometimes is, and of the relation which she holds in some families to the different members of the household, you would think that I was dealing in satire, or endeavoring to be severe. She contrives, not unfrequently, to become as absolutely useless as it is possible for a living person to be; a hinderance to all work, a preventive of all thought, a source of anxiety to her father and of unceasing trouble to her mother. She has hands and fingers, which the keys of the piano will testify and the glitter of rings, but they seem to have been made for nothing useful, and shrink like a sensitive plant from any

thing that can be called work. She has feet and strength to use them, as the dance will testify, where from nine o'clock until daylight she undergoes an amount of physical exertion quite wonderful to behold; but there her energy is exhausted, and it is a weary task to walk a mile, or to wait on herself, or to do any thing else worth doing. She has undoubtedly the faculty of thought, but nothing in her conversation proves it. The introduction of a serious subject is a hint for her to retire, and to ask her opinion upon any question of literature or politics or social morality, is to her only a proof of your dulness. But introduce the subject of dress or ornament or the latest fashion, and the volubility of tongue will amaze, if it does not delight you. An excellent preparation this for the serious duties of life, and a happy prospect has he who takes such an one to share with him the real trials of the world! Still worse, it is sometimes quite shocking to see with what levity these young ladies, who would themselves be shocked if you call them young women, will incur expenses which their

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fathers are reluctant to pay, and spend their time in the most frivolous idleness, while their mothers work like servants in the kitchen and the nursery. To meet them on the street in their elegant array of silks and finery, for the display of which I cannot but think the street a most unsuitable place, or in the assembly-room, where full dress is measured by its costliness, not its quantity, you would not suspect that their fathers are vexed in mind how to pay for the extravagance. Sometimes their mothers, not to be thrown into the shade, share with them to the utmost of their folly, and mother and daughter are rivals for the same flippant, unmeaning attentions; and sometimes, which is worse for the one, but better for the other, the daughter's extravagance is atoned for by the mother's selfdenial.

I do not mean to speak lightly or harshly, but I think there is need of speaking plainly. Good taste, not less than good morals and religion, require of the young lady to become useful as well as ornamental. It is surely to