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chronical distempers. This, indeed, Mr. Town, is the principal cause of my writing to you: for it bas often given me great concern to see the present division between the young and the old ; to observe elderly men forining themselves into clubs and societies, that they may be more securely separated from youth ; and to see young men running into diffipation and debauchery, rather than associate with age. If each party would labour to conform to the other, from such a coalition many advantages would accrue to both. Our youth would be instructed by the experience of age, and lose much of that levity, which they retain too long: while at the same time the wrinkled brow of the aged would be smoothed by the sprightly chearfulness of youth ;by which they might supply the want of spirits, forget the loss of old friends, and bear with ease all their worldly misfortunes. It is remarkable, that those young men: are the most worthy and sensible, who have kept up, any intercourse with the old; and that those old men are of the most chearful and amiable disposition, who have not been ashamed to converse with the young.

I will not pretend to decide, which party is most blameable in neglecting this necessary commerce with each other ; which, if properly managed, would be at once so beneficial and delightful : but it undoubtedly. arises from a certain selfishness and obitinacy in both, which will not suffer them to make a mutual allowance for the natural difference of their dispositions. Their inclinations are, indeed, as different as their years ; yet each expects the other to comply, though neither will make any advances. How rarely do we see the least degree of society preserved between a father and a fon! a shocking reflection, when we consider that nature has endeavoured to unite them by parental affection on one side, and filial gratitude on the other. Yet a father and a son as seldom live together with any tolerable harmony, as an husband and wife; and chiefly for the same reason : for though they are both joined under the same yoke, yet they are each tugging different ways. A father might as well expect his son to be as gouty and infirm as himself, as to have the dif

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position which he has contracted from age; and a fon might as reasonably defire the vigour and vivacity of five and twenty, as his own love of gaiety and diverfions, in his father. It is therefore evident, that a mutual endeavour to conform to each other is absolutely requifite to keep together the cement of natural affection, which an untractable stubbornness fo frequently diffolves; or at least, if it does not disturb the affection, it constantly destroys the society between father and son.

This unhappy and unnatural division is often the subject of complaint in persons of both ages ; but is ftill unremedied, because neither reflect on the cause whence it proceeds. Old men are perpetually commenting on the extreme levity of the times, and blaming the young, because they do not admire and court their company, which, indeed, is no wonder, since they generally treat their youthful companions as mere children, and expect such a Navih deference to their years, as destroys that equality by which chearíulness and society sublists. Young men do not like to be chid by a proverb, or reproved by a wrinkle: but though they do not chuse to be corrected by their grave seniors like school-boys, they would be proud to consult them as friends; which the injudicious severity of old age feldom will permit, not deigning to indulge them with so great a degree of freedom and familiarity. Youth, on the other hand, fun the company of age, complain. ing of the small regard and respect paid to them, though they often act with so little reserve and such unbecom. ing confidence, as not to deserve it. Suppose the old were pleased with the natural flow of spirits and lively conversation of youth, still some respect may be chal. lenged as due to them; nor should the decency and fobriety of their characters ever be insulted by any improper or immodeft conversation.

I am an old man myself, Mr. Town, and I have an only boy, whose behaviour to me is unexceptionable : permit me, therefore, to dwell a moment longer on my favourite subject, and I will conclude. With what harmony might all parents and children live together,

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if the father would strive to foften the rigour of age, and remember that his son must naturally possess those qualities, which ever accompany youth ; and if the son would in return endeavour to suit himself to those infirmities, which his father received from old age! If they would reciprocally study to be agreeable to each other, the father would insensibly fubftitute affe&tion in the room of authority, and lose the churlish severity and peevishness incident to his years : while the son would curb the unbecoming impetuosity of his youth, change his reluctance to obey into a constant attention to please, and remit much of his extreme gaiety in conformity to the gravity of his father. Whereyer fuch a turn of, mind is encouraged, there must be happiness and agreeable fociety: and the contrary qualities of youth and age, thus blended, compose the lurest cement of affection; as colours of the most opposite tints, by a skilful mixture, each giving and receiving certain shades, will form a picture, the most heightened and exquisite in its colouring. I am, Sir,

Your most humble Servant,

JOHN BEVIL.

Letter of Advice to a YOUNG ACADEMIC.

[Connoiffeur, No. 82.]

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DEAR SIR,

S you are now going to the University, I would

not be thought to pay so ill a compliment to your own natural good sense, as to suppose, that you will not (like many young gentlemen of fortune) in some meafure apply yourself to study: otherwise the time you spend there will be entirely lost; for (as Swift very juftly remarks) “ all ornamental parts of education are “ better taught in other places.” At the same time I do not mean, that you should commence pedant, and be continually poring on a book; fince that will rather puzzle, than inform the understanding. And though i know many {prightly young gentlemen of lively and, N 6

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quick parts affect to despise it altogether, it will be ne. cessary to learn something of Logic; I mean in the same manner one would learn Fencing-not to attack others, but to defend one's felf. In a word, you will find it a great unhappiness when you return hither, if you do not bring with you some taste for reading : for a mere country gentleman, who can find no society in books, will have little else to do, besides following his sports, but to fit, as squire of the company, tippling among a parcel of idle wretches, whose understandings are nearly on a level with his dogs and horses.

It has been an established maxim, that the world will always form an opinion of persons according to the company they are known to keep. In the University, as well as in other places, there are people, whom we ought to avoid, as we would the plague: and as it is of the utmost consequence, whether you plunge at once into extravagance and debauchery, or fink gradually into indolence and ftupidity, I shall point out some of these pests of society in as few words as poffible.

The first person I would caution you againft, is the wretch that takes a delight to turn religion into ridicule: one who employs that speech, which was given him by God to celebrate his praise, in questioning his very being. This, as it is impious in itself, is likewise the height of ill-manners. It is hoped, there are but few of them to be met with in a place of found doctrine and religious education: but wherever they are, they ought to be avoided as much as possible; and if they will force themselves into our company,, they hould be used with the same contempt with which they have the hardness to treat their maker. And this, I can assure you, may be done safely : for I never knew any body who pretended to be above the fear of God, but was under the most terrible apprehensions, whenever attacked by man.

The next character, whom I would advise you to fhun, is the GAMESTER, in some respects not unlike the former. The gaming-table is his thrine, and fortune his deity ; nor does he ever speak or think of any other, unless by way of blasphemy, oaths and curses,

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when he has had a bad run at cards or dice, He has not the least notion of friendship ; but would ruin his own brother, if it might be of any advantage to himself. He, indeed, professes himself your friend; but that is only with a design to draw you in : for his trade is inconsistent with the principles of honour or justice, without which there can be no real friendship. It should, therefore, be the care of every gentleman, not to hold any commerce with such people, whose acquaintance he cannot enjoy, without giving up his estate.

The next person whom we ought to beware of, is a DRUNKARD ; one that takes an unaccountable pleasure in fapping his conftitution, and drowning his understanding. He constantly goes senseless to bed, and rises maukish in the morning ; nor can he be easy in body or mind, 'till he has renewed his dose, and again put himself beyond the reach of reflection. I would, therefore, entreat you by all means to avoid an habit, which will at once ruin your health, and impair your intellects. It is a misfortune, that fociety should be esteemed dull and infipid without the affistance of the bottle to enliven it: so that a man cạnnot entirely re. frain from his glass, if he keeps any company at all. But let it be remembered, that' in drinking, as well as in talking, we ought always to “ keep a watch over the “ doors of our lips.”

A Lownger is a creature, that you will often see lolling in a coffee-house, or fauntering about the ftreets, with great calmness, and a moft inflexible stupidity in his countenance. He takes as much pains as the Sot, to fly from his own thoughts ; and is at length happily arrived at the highest pitch of indolence both in mind and body. He would be as inoffensive as he is dull, if it were not that his idleness is contagious ; for, like, the torpedo, he is sure to benumb and take away all sense of feeling from every one, with whom he happens to come in contact.

It were also best to forbear the company of a WRANGLER, or a person of a litigious temper. This sometimes arises, not from any great share of ill-nature, but from a vain pride of shewing one's parts or skill in

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