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pot of mony broke, it is divided amongst them that gaped after it so earnestly. Or else he wants ineans to set her out, he hath no mony, and though it be to the manifest prejudice of her body and soul's health, he cares not, he will take no notice of it, she must and shall tarry. Many slack and careless Parents, iniqui patres, measure their children's affections by their own, they are now cold and decrepit themselves, past all such youthful conceits, and they will therefore starve their children's Genius, have them a pueris Y illico nasci senes, they must not marry, nec earum affines esse rerum quas secum fert adolescentia : ex sua libidine moderatur quæ est nunc, non que olim fuit: as he said in the Comedy : they will stifle nature, their vong bloods must not participate of youthful pleasures, but be as they are themselves old on a sudden. And 'tis a general fault amongst most parents in bestowing of their children, the father wholly respects wealth, when through his folly, riot, indiscretion, he hath embeazled his estate, to recover himself, he confines and prostitutes his eldest son's love and affection to some fool, or ancient, or deformed piece for mony,
« * Phanaretæ ducet filiam, rufam, illam virginem,
Cæsiam, sparso ore, adunco naso”— and though his son utterly dislike, with Clitipho in the Comedy, Non possum pater : If she be rich, Eia (he replies) ut elegans est, credas animum ibi esse ? he must and shall have her, she is fair enough, young enough, if he look or hope to inherit his lands, he shall marry, not when or whom he loves, Arconidis hujus filiam, but whom his father commands, when and where he likes, his affection must dance attendance upon him. His daughter is in the same predicament forsooth, as an empty boat she must carry what, where, when, and whom her Father will. So that in these businesses the father is still for the best advantage; Now the mother respects good kinred, must part the son a proper woman. All which ? Livy exemplifies, dec. 1. lib. 4. a Gentleman and a Yeoman woo'da wench in Rome (contrary to that statute that the gentry and commonalty must not match together); the inatter was controverted : The Gentlenian was preferred by the mother's voice, quæ quam splendissimis nuptiis jungi puellam volebat: the overseers stood for him that was most worth, &c. But parents ought not to be so'strict in this behalfe, Beauiy is a dowry of it self allsufficient, + Virgo formosa, etsi oppidò pauper, abundè dotata. est, - Rachel was so inarried to Jacob, and Bonaventure b in to
y Ter. * Ter. Heaut. Scen. ult. Pleheius & nobilis ambiehant preilam, puellæ certamen in partes venit, &c. + Apulcius Apol. Gen. 26. Non peccat vco aliter qui mulierem ducit ob pulchritudinem.
therand choicebiher good entage may befolks, or see young
sent.' " denies that he so much as venially sins, that marries à maid for comeliness of person.” The Jews, Deut. 21. 11. if they saw amongst the captives a beautifull woman, some small circumstances observed, might take her to wife. They should not be too severe in that kind, especially if there be no such urgent occasion, or grievous impediment. Tis good for a commonwealth. * Plato holds, that in their contracts a young men should never avoid the affinity of poor folks, or seek after rich." Poverty and base parentage may be sufficiently recompenced by inany other good qualities, modesty, vertue, religion, and choice bringing up, “+ I am poor, I contess, but am I therefore contemptible, and an abject? Love it self is naked, the Graces; the Stars, and Hercules clad in a Lion's skin." Give something to vertue, love, wisdom, favour, beauty, person; be not all for money. Besides, you must consider that Amor cogi non potest, Love cannot be compelled, they must affect as they may: Fatum est in partibus illis qua's sinus abscondit, as the saying is, marriage and hanging goes by destiny, matches are made in heaven.
It lies not in our power to love or hate,
For will in us is over-ruld by fate. A servant maid in | Aristænetus loved her Mistris' Minion, which when her Dame perceived, furiosa æmulatione, in a jealous humour she dragged her about the house by the hair of the head, and vexed her sore. The wench cryed out, “90 mistris, fortune hath made my body your servant, but not my soul!" Affections are free, not to be commanded. Moreover it may be to restrain their ambition, pride, and covetousness, to correct those hereditary diseases of a family, God in his just judgment assignes and permits such matches to be inade, For I am of Plato and · Bodine's mind, that Fainilies have their bounds and periods as well as kingdoms, beyond which for extent or continuance they shall not exceed, six or seven hundred Yeers, as they there illustrate by a multitude of examples, and which Peucer and || Melancthon approve, but in a perpetuall tenor (as we see by many perlegrees of Knights, Gentlemen, Yeomen) continue as they began, for many descents with little alteration. Howsoever let them, I say, give something to youth, to love; they must not think they can fancy whom
* Lib. 6. de leg. Ex usu reipub. est ut in nuptiis juvenes neg; pauperum affipitatem fugiant, neq; divituin sectentur. + Philost. ep. Quoniam pauper sum, idcirco contemprior & abjectior tibi videar? Amor ipse nudus est, gratiæ & astra; Hercules pelle leonina indutus. Juvenal.
Lib. 2. ep. 7. Ejutans inquit, non mentem unà addixit mihi fortuna servitute.
De repub. c. de period. rcrumpub. ll Com. in car. Chron.
they they appoint; Amor enim non imperatur, affectus liber si quis alius & vices exigens, this is a free passion, as Pliny said in a Panegyrick of his, and may not be forced : Love craves liking, as the saying is, it requires mutual affcctions, a correspondency: invito non datur nec aufertur, it may not be learned, Ovid himself cannot teach us how to love, Solomon describe, Apelles paint, or Helena expresse it. They must not therefore compell or intrude;, * quis enim (as Fahius urgeth) amare alieno animo poteșt ? but consider withall the miseries of enforced marriages; take pitty upon youth: and such above the rest as have daughters to bestow, should be very carefull and provident to marry them in due time. Syracides cap. 7. vers. 25. calls it “ a weighty matter to perform, so to marry a daughter to a man of understanding in due time:" Virgines enim tempestivè locandre, as 'Lemnius ailmonisheth, lib. 1. cap. 6. Virgins inust be provided for in season, to prevent many diseases, of which + Rodericus a Castro de morbis mulierum lib. 2. cap. 3. and Lod. Mercatus lib. 2. de mulier. affect. cap. 4. de melanch, virginum & viduarum, have both largely discoursed. And therefore as well to avoid these ferall maladies, 'tis good to get them husbands betimes, as to prevent some other grosse inconveniences, and for a thing that I know besides ; ubi nuptiarum tenipus x cetas advenerit, as Chrysostoine adviseth, let them not defer it; they perchance will marry themselves else, or do worse. If Nevisanus the Lawyer do not impose, they may do it by right : for as he proves out of Curtius, and some other Civilians, Sylvæ, nup. lib. 2. numer. 30. "&A maid past 25 yeers of age, against her parents' consent may marry such a one as is unworthy of, and inferiour to her, and her father by law must be compelled to give her a competent dowry.” Mistake me not in the mean tiine, or think that I do Apologize here for any headstrong unruly wanton flurts. I do approve that of S. Ambrose (com. · ment. in Genesis 24. 51.) which he hath written touching Rebecca's spousals, “ A woman should give unto her parents the choice of her husband, I lest she be reputed to be malapert and wanton, if she take upon her to inake her own choice; $ for she should rather seem to be desired by a man, then to desire a man her self” To those hard parents alone I retort that of Curtius, . (in the behalf of modester maids) that are too remiss and care
• Plin. in pan. * Declam. 306. 'Puellis imprimis nulla danda occasio lapsus. Lemo. lib. 1. 54. de vit. instit. + See more part. 1. s. mem. 2. subs. 4. Filia cxcedens annum 25. potest inscio patre rubere, licet indig. nus sit maritus, & cum cogcre ad congmie dotandum. Ne appctentiæ pro. Çaçioris reputetur author. 9 Expetita enim magis debei videri à viro quam ipsa virum expetisse. .. VOL. II. Dd
less of their due time and riper yeers. For if they tarry longer, to say truth, they are past date, and no body will respect them. A woman with us in Italy (saith * Aretine's Lucretia) 24. yeers of age, “is old already, past the best, of no account.”' An old fellow, as Lycistrata confesseth in † Aristophanes, etsi sit canus, citò puellam virginem ducat uxorem, and 'tis no newes for an old fellow to marry a yong wench: but as he follows it, mulieris brevis occasio est, etsi hoc non apprehenderit, nemo vult ducere uxorem, expectans verò sedet; who cares for an old maid ? she may set, &c. A virgin, as the Poet holds, lasciva & petulans puella virgo, is like a flowre, a Rose withered on a sudden.
« * Quam modò nascentem rutilus conspexit Eous,
She that was erst a maid as fresh as May,
Is now an old Crone, time so steals away. Let them take time then while they may, make advantage of youth, and as he prescribes,
“ Collige virgo rosas dum fos novus & nova pubes,
Fair maids go gather Roses in the prime,
And think that as a flowre so goes on time. Let's all love, dum vires anniq; sinunt, while we are in the flower of yeers, fit for love matters, and while time serves;
“ p Soles occidere & redire possunt,
Suns that set may rise again,
'Tis with us perpetual night. Volat irrevocabile tempus, time past cannot be recal'd. But we need no such exhortation, we are all commonly too forward: yet if there be any escape, and all be not as it should, as Diogenes struck the father when the son swore, because he taught him no better, if a maid or yong man miscarry, I think their Parents oftentimes, Guardians, Overseers, Governors, neque vos (saith § Chrysostome) a supplicio immunes evadetis,
* Mulier apud nos 24. annorum vetula est & projectitia. + Comcd. Lycistrat. And. Divo Interpr. b Ausonius edy, 14. Idem. p Catullus. 1 Traitslated by M. B. Johnson, S Hom. 5. in 1. Thes, cap. 4. L.
si non statim ad nuptias, &c. are in as much fault, and as severely to be punished as their children, in providing for them no sooner.
Now for such as have free liberty to bestow themselves, I could wish that good counsell of the Comicall old man were put in practice,
• * Opulentiores pauperiorum ut filias
Less envy should we have, much more pitty. If they would care less for wealth, we should have much more content and quietness in a common-wealth. Beauty, good. bringing up, me thinks, is a sufficient portion of it self,
“ + Dos est sua forma puellis,” and he doth well that will accept of such a wife. Eubulides, in 'Aristænetus, married a poor man's child, facie non illæta. bili, of a merry countenance, and heavenly visage, in pitty of her estate, and that quickly. Acontius coming to Delos, to sacrifice to Diana, fell in love with Cydippe, à noble lass, and wanting means to get her love, flung a golden apple into her lap, with this inscription upon it,
“ Juro tibi sanè per mystica sacra Dianæ,
Ile come and be thy husband if I may. .
Blessed is the wooing,
That is not long a doing. As the saying is; when the parties are sufficiently known to each other, what needs such scrupulosity, so many circumstances ? dost thou know her conditions, her bringing up, like her person? let her means be what they will, take her without any more ado. 9 Dido and Æneas were accidentally driven by a stotin both into one cave, they made a match upon it; Ma
* Plautas..t Ovid. Epist. 12. 1. 2. Eligit conjugem pauperem, indotatam & subito deamavit, ex commiseratione ejus inopia. 9 Virg. Æn. Dd2