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Stab me with sword, or poison strong
Give me to work my bane;
From mistress mine refrain.
As thine own goods take all,
I ever use thee shall.
My rival for to have. This Jealousie which I am to treat of, is that which belongs to married men, in respect of their own wives ; to whose estate, is no sweetness, pleasure, happiness can be compared in the world, if they live quietly and lovingly together; so if they disagree or be jealous, those bitter pils of sorrow and grief, disasterous mischieves, mischances, tortures, gripings, discontents, are not to be separated from them. A most violent passion it is where it taketh place, an unspeakable torment, a hel. lish torture, an infernal plague, as Ariosto cals it, “ A fury, a continual fever, full of suspition, fear, and sorrow, a martyrdome, a mirth-marring monster. The sorrow and grief of heart of one woman jealous of another, is heavier than death, Ecclus 28. 6. as ? Peninnah did Hannah, vex her and upbraid her sore:" 'Tis a 'main vexation, a most intolerable burden, a corrosive to all content, a frenzy, a madness it self, as • Be. neditto Varchi proves out of that select Sonnet of Giovanni de ha Casa, that reverend Lord, as he stiles him.
Causes of Jealousie. Who are most apt. Idleness, Melancholy, Impotency, long absence, beauty, wantonness, naught themselves. Allurements from time,
place, persons, bad' usage, Causes. ASTROLOGERS make the stars a cause or sign of this bite A ter passion, and out of every man's Horoscope will give a probable conjecture whether he will be jealous or no, and at what time, by direction of the significators to their several promissors: their Aphorisms are to be read in Albubator, Pontanus," Schoner, Junctine, &c. Bodine cap. 5. meth. hist. ascribes
a great cause to tlie country or clime, and discourseth largely there of this subject, saying, that southern inen are inore hot, lascivious, and jealous, then such as live in the North ; they can hardly contain themselves in those hotter climes, but are most subject to prodigious lust. Leo Afer telleth incredible things alinost, of the luss and jealousie of his country men of Africk, and especially such as live about Carthage, and so doth every Geographer of them in Asia, Turky, Spaniards, Italians. Germany hath not so many drunkards, England Tobacconists, France dancers, Holland mariners, as Italy alone hath jealous husbands. And in * Italy some account thein of Piacenza more jealous then the rest. In - Germany, France, Brittain, Scandia, Poland, Muscovy, they are not so troubled with this feralt. malady, although Damianus à Goes, which I do much wondee at, in his Topography of Lapland, and Herbastein of Russia, against the stream of all other Geographer's, would fasten it upon those Northern inhabitants. Altomarius Poggius, and Munster in his description of Baden, reports that men and women of all sorts go commonly into the Baches together, without all suspicion, “ the name of jealousie (saith Munster) is not so much as once heard of among them.” In Frisland the women kiss him they drink to, and ate kissed again of those they pledge. The virgins in Holland go hand in band with young men from home, glide on the Ice, such is their harmless liberty, and lodge together abroad without suspitionet which rash Sansovinus an Italian makes a great sign of unchastity. In France, upon small acquaintance, it is usual to court other men's wives, to come to their houses, and accoma pany them arm in arm in the streets, without imputation. In the most Northern Countries young men and maids familiarly dance together, men and their wives, + which, Siena only excepted, Italians may not abide. The "Greeks on the other side have their private bathes for men and women, where they must not come neer, not so much as see one another : and as e Bodine observes lib. 5. de repub. “ the Italians could never endure this,”. ur a Spaniard, the very conceit of it would make him mad : and for that cause they lock up their women, and will not suffer them to be neer men, so much as in the 'Church,
Mulierum conditio misera ; rllam honestam credunt nisi domo conclusie vivat. * Fines Morison. Nomen zelotypiæ apud istos locum pon babet. lib. 3. c. 8. + Fines Moris. part. 3. cap. 2. Busbequius. Sands. Præ amore & zelotypia sæpius iusaniunt. Australes ne sacra quidem publica fieri patiuntur, nisi uterque sexus paticte medio dividatur: & quum in Angliam inquit, legationis causa profectus essem, audivi Mendozam legatum Hispaniarum dicentem turpe esse viros & fæminas-in, &c.
mbassaing fauliscuouslys told hire they come places
but with a partition between. He telleth moreover, how that * when he was, Embassadour in England, lie heard Mendoza the Spanish Legate finding fault with it, as a filthy custome for men and women to sit promiscuously in Churches together ; bút Dr. Dale the Master of the requests told him again, that it was indeed a filthy custome in Spain, where they could not contain themselves from lascivious thoughts in their holy places, but not with us." Baronius in his Annals, out of Eusebius, taxeth Licinius the Emperour for a decree of his made to this effect, Jubens ne viri simul cum mulieribus in Ecctesia interessent: for being prodigiously naught himself, alirum naturam er sua vitiosa mente spectavit, he so esteemed others. But we are far from any such strange conceits; and will permit our wives and daughters to go to the Tavern with a friend, as Aubanus saith, modo absit lascivia, and suspect nothing, to kiss coming and going, which, as Erasmus writes in one of his Epistles, they cannot endure. England is a paradise for wo. men, and hell for horses : Italy a paradise of horses, hell for women, as the diverbe goes. Some make a question whether this headstrong passion rage more in women then men, as Montagne l. 3. But sure it is more outragious in women, as all other melancholy is, by reason of the weakness of their $ex. Scaliger Poet. lib. cap. 13. concludes against wolnen. * & Besides their inconstancy, treachery, suspition, dissimulation, superstition, pride, (for all women are by nature proud) desire of soveraignty, if they be great women, (he gives instance in Juno) bitterness and jealousie are the most remarkable af. fections.
« Sed neque fulvus aper media tam fulvus in ira est; ...
Fulmineo rapidos dum rotat ore canes.
Tyger, Bore, Bear, Viper, Lioness, .
Some say red-headed women, pale-coloured, black-eyed, and of a shril voice, are most subject to jealousie.'. .
* High colour in a woman choler shews,
But worst of all red, shril, and jealous; ..
Idea: mulieres præterquam quod sunt infidæ, suspicaces, inconstantes, in sidiosa, simulatrices, superstitiosæ, & si potentes, intolerabiles, amore zelotypæ supra modum. Ovid. 2. de art. Barcello. *R.T.
Comparisons are odious, I neither parallel them with others, nor debase them any more: men and women are both bad, and too subject to this pernicious infirmity. It is most part a symptome and cause of Melancholy, as Plater and Valescus teach us: melancholy men are apt to be jealous, and jealous apt to be melancholy.
Pale jealousie, childe of insatiate lore,
By discontent with deadly poison fed;
A hellish fire not quenched but with blood.” If idleness concurr with melancholy, such persons are most apt to be jealous; 'tis i Nevisanus' nrte, “ An idle woman is presumed to be lascivious, and often jealous," Mulier cum sola cogitat, male cogitat : And ’tis not unlikely, for they have no other business to trouble their heads with."
More particular causes be these, which follow. Impotency first, when a man is not able of himself to perform those dues which he ought unto his wife: for though he be an honest liver, hurt no man, yet Trebius the Lawyer may make a question, an suum cuiq; tribuat, whether he give every one their own; and therefore when he takes notice of his wants, and perceives her to be more craving, clamorous, unsatiable and prone to lust than is fit; he begins presently to suspect, that wherein he is defective, she will satisfie her self, she will be pleased by some other ineans. Cornelius Gallus hath ele. gantly expressed this humor in an Epigram to his Lychoris.
“ Jamque alios juvenes aliosque requirit amores,
Me vocat imbellem decrepitumque senem,” &c. For this cause is most evident in old inen, that are cold and dry by nature, and inarried succi plenis, to young wanton wives, with old doting Janivere in Chaucer, they begin to mis. trust all is not well,
she was young and he was old, and therefore he feared to be a Cuckold. And how should it otherwise be ? Old age is a disease of it self, loathsome, full of suspition and fear; when it is at best, unable, unfit for such inatters. * Tam apta nuptiis quàm
Lib. 2. num. 8. mulier otiosa facile præsumitur luxuriosa, & sæpe zelotypa. Lib, 2. num. 4
bruma bruma messibus, as welcome to a yong woman as snow in harvest, saith Nevisanus : Et si capis juvenculam, faciet tibi cornua : Marry a lusty maide and she will surely graft horns on thy head. « 1 All women are slippery, often unfaithfull to their husbands (as Æneas Sylvius epist. 38. seconds him), but to old inen most treacherous: they had rather mortem amplexa. rier, lye with a coarse than such a one: * Oderunt illuin pueri, contemnunt mulieres. On the other side many men, saith Hieronymus, are suspitious of their wives, m if they be lightly given, but old folks above the rest. In so much that she did not complain without a cause in "Apuleius of an old bald, bedridden knave she had to her good man. “ Poor woman as I am, what shall I do? I have an old grim sire to my husband, as bald as a cout, as little and as unable as a child,” a bedfull of bones, he keeps all the doors barred and locked upon me, wo is me, what shall I do?” He was jealous, and she made him a cuckold for keeping her up: Suspition without a cause, hard usage is able of it self to make a woman flie out, that was otherwise honest.
" + plerasque bonas tractatio pravas Esse facit,"
bad usage aggratates the matter. Nam quando mulieres cognoscunt maritum hoc advertere, licentiùs peccant, o as Nevisanus liolds, when a woman thinks her husband watcheth her, she will sooner offend ; [ Liberiùs peccant, & pudor omnis abest, rough handling makes them worse: as the good wife of Bathe in Chaucer brags,
In his own grease I made him frie
for anger and for very Jealousie. Of two extreames, this of hard usage is the worst. 'Tis a great fault (for some men are uxorii) to be too fond of their wives, to dote on them as P Senior Deliro on his Fallace, to be too effeminate, or as soine do, to be sick for their wives, breed children for them, and like the 9 Tiberini lie in for thein, as some birds hatch egges by turns, they do all women's offices : Cælius Rhodiginus #nt. lect. lib. 6. cap. 24. makes mention of
Quum omnibus infideles fæminæ, senibus infidelissima. *Mimnernus. * Vix aliqua non impudica, & quam non suspcctam mesito quis habeat. Lib. 5. de aur. asino. At ego misera patre meo seniorem maritum nacta sum, dem cucurbita calviorem & quovis puero pumiliorem, cunctam domum seris & catenis obditam custodientem. + Chaloner. Lib. 4. n. 80. Ovid. 2. de art. amandi. ÞEvery man out of his humour. 9 Calcagninus Apol. Tiberini ab uxorum partu earvin vices subeunt, ut aves per vices incubant, &c. VOL. II.